(March 21st to April 19th)
You need to realize that moving on doesn’t mean dating as many people as you possibly can. Sometimes moving on requires time for yourself. Spend some time alone and you’ll learn things about yourself that you never realized when you were in a relationship. Moving on doesn’t mean throwing yourself back into dating immediately, it means letting yourself realize that you don’t always need someone else to be happy.
(April 20th to May 21st)
You need to realize that you don’t always need to know why the relationship ended in order to move on. Sometimes you won’t get closure. Sometimes you’ll have no idea why they left, or why it didn’t workout, but you need to find the strength within yourself to move forward regardless.
(May 22nd to June 21st)
You need to realize that you’re going to think about your ex and past flings, and that doesn’t mean you’re not over them, it just means you remember them and the part of your life that you shared with them, which is totally normal. You’re not going to forget your ex. Moving on isn’t just forgetting, oftentimes it’s thinking about them and not feeling remorseful or bitter, but just literally remembering.
(July 23rd to August 22nd)
You need to realize that you don’t need to prove to anyone you’re ‘over it,’ especially your ex. Flaunting your new significant other on instagram doesn’t prove you’re not heartbroken or distraught, it just proves that you have the same ability to display your life on social media like everyone else does. Allow yourself to feel whatever you’re ever feeling, and don’t pretend to feel any other way. You don’t have to prove your feelings, just feel them.
(August 23rd to September 22nd)
You need to realize that revisiting your past, and playing it over and over again in your head won’t help you move forward. Obsessing over what went wrong or what you could’ve done differently is pointless because no matter how differently you would’ve done things, you can’t go back and redo them. Accept what happened, accept what you did wrong, or what they did wrong, and instead of seeing that time as wasted, learn from it.
(September 23rd to October 22nd)
You need to realize that jumping into another relationship is not the solution to getting over your previous one. It’s completely understandable to not want to feel lonely, but being alone and loneliness are not the same thing. Know who you are without needing someone else to tell you. Know who you are without them.
(October 23rd to November 22nd)
You need to realize that comparing yourself to the person your ex is currently dating, doesn’t change who you are, it really accomplishes nothing at all. Whether their current S.O. is your complete opposite, or your clone, who cares? You are your own person and anyone who failed to love you the way you deserve to be loved didn’t appreciate everything that makes you, you.
(November 23rd to December 21st)
You need to realize that leaving the place you associate with your ex won’t make you forget them. You can’t erase them from your memory no matter how far away you move or travel. You’ll most likely always remember your ex, you just need to figure out how to not let those memories ruin your life.
(December 22nd to January 20th)
You need to realize that concentrating too much on one aspect of your life won’t cancel out the other ones. Focusing on your career won’t automatically cancel out your desire to be loved. Life isn’t simple multiplication, but it is a lot healthier when you find balance. Find yours.
(January 21st to February 18th)
You need to realize that the universe won’t tell you who to love, and it won’t just lay love in your lap either. There won’t always be a deeper answer as to why your relationship failed, or why heartbreak happened, and expecting to gain clarity like magic is unrealistic. You’ll gain clarity on what went wrong when you start living life for you.
(February 19th to March 20th)
You need to realize that you weren’t wrong to trust someone who broke your heart. It’s good to trust people, but the more trusting you are, the less reason you have to be surprised when people take advantage of it. Your compassion doesn’t deserve to be taken advantage of, but don’t let the people who take your kindness for granted, affect your life in any negative way.