Will, I Ever Find Love? 13 Important Lessons No One Gave You
If you’re a twenty-something or thirty-year-old single, I bet that you can’t swear that you have never asked yourself: “Will I ever find love?”.
It’s natural that you worry about this. After all, you’re a human being and you have the need to love and be loved.
You’ve had your own share of breakups and heartbreaks. All of your past relationships have failed, and now you can’t help but wonder “Will I ever find love again or will I remain forever alone?”
Well, in that case, here are some life-changing reminders that will shift your perspective forever.
Someday, everything will make perfect sense.
Now, when you feel like you’ve hit a dead-end, it’s natural that you think that everything you’ve been through up to now is completely pointless.
Why did you have to go through all those heartbreaks? Why did all of your exes hurt you in the most horrible way when you’ve never done anything wrong to them?
Why did you have to fall insanely in love with that guy or girl if you two weren’t meant to end up together?
Did you do something to deserve this miserable luck? How come all those people around you had it better than you?
So many questions and no answers in sight. It’s not that you’re envious, but you look at your friends, and compared to them, you’re a real angel.
You’ve never dragged a guy or a girl along, you are one of the rare people you know who has always been faithful to their partners, and you have never broken anyone’s heart.
But, comparing yourself to them, you have the worst luck. You’re the only one who hasn’t found love.
So, where is the justice in all of it? What was the point of all the hell you’ve been through if you obviously aren’t getting your happy ending?
Everything happens for a reason
Well, it appears that you’ve forgotten that everything happens for a reason. It’s not like this with romantic love only – this can be applied to every single aspect of your life.
Maybe you had to experience all of that pain so you could appreciate joy even more, once it came to you. Maybe it was destined for you to meet all those toxic guys or girls so you could value the right one when he or she came along.
It is possible that you had to see all of your exes change, so you had the chance to learn how to let go. Maybe it was to understand that there are things to be grateful for, despite everything bad that went on.
Maybe you had to break up with every man or woman in your life so far, so you could clear the path for your forever person.
Maybe you had to go through all these past relationships to see how mentally strong you actually are. If it weren’t for all of those heartbreaks, you would have never become aware of how much you can take, would you?
Look, I don’t know your story. But, what I do know is that one day, all the pieces of the puzzle called your life will perfectly fit together.
Romantic love is not all there is.
When you ask yourself “Will I ever find love?”, all you can think about is romance. It’s like, for you, romantic love is all there is.
Well, guess what – it’s not. In fact, there are numerous other types of love besides romantic ones.
First of all, there is your family. I don’t know if you’re close to them or not, but at the end of the day, I’m sure they love you deeply. And, I bet that you love them back.
Then, there is the family you choose – your friends. Just look around you and I’m positive that you’ll notice a bunch of people who are ready to move mountains for your sake.
I’m sure that you’ll see that there are many more of those who truly love you. I’m sure that you’ll notice at least a few people who have your back no matter what.
Loyal people who are there for you in the middle of the night. People you can count on, and people who make your life better.
In fact, it doesn’t have to be plural. It will be more than enough to have just one person in the world who fits this description – it will be more than enough to have one person you can call yours.
Besides, you don’t get love only from those around you.
Love is your next-door neighbor who brings you Christmas cookies. It’s that little kid who smiled at you on the street without any reason whatsoever. It’s that stranger who helped with your grocery bags.
Love is all around you – you just have to look closely.
Be grateful for all the love you get
When looking at things from this point of view, I guess there is a lot to be grateful for, am I right? After all, it’s a privilege having someone to love you no matter what kind of love you might be getting from them.
But, instead of focusing on that, what do you do? You worry about the only type of love you don’t have.
Yes, I know I’m right. You have dozens of different people who truly love you, but instead, you obsess over not having one person.
I know that your family or best friend can’t replace a romantic partner, but that doesn’t mean that you should completely disregard the care and attention you’re getting from everyone else.
Your greatest responsibility is to love yourself.
So, I’ve been talking about all those other types of love you’ve been getting without seeing it. But, I haven’t talked to you about the most important love there is: the one you’re giving to yourself.
You see, many people who don’t get romantic love automatically assume that they’re unlovable. Out of all the men or women in the world, none of them found you worthy of their unconditional love.
So, it must be true: there is nothing to be loved about you, and consequently, you stop loving yourself.
You start wondering why aren’t I enough. What’s wrong with me?
Are you not attractive enough? Smart or interesting enough? Why would you love yourself when no one else does?
Well, that’s your number one mistake. You see, people are often led by examples.
Therefore, if you meet a guy or a girl and show them a lack of self-love and self-care, they will follow you. You won’t have to put a lot of effort into convincing them that there is nothing to be loved about you – they will believe you right away.
If you show someone that you don’t respect yourself, they won’t do it either. If you show them that you don’t think that you’re worthy – they won’t see your value either. It’s that simple.
Yes, loving others is great. It helps you become your best self and it enriches your soul and mind. But, your greatest responsibility is to love yourself before anyone else.
The relationship you have with yourself is a priority
By knowing this, it won’t come to you as a surprise that you have to make yourself a priority.
Whether you like to admit it or not, people will come and go from your life. I’m not talking about your romantic partners here only – I’m talking about everyone else.
That’s just life. You don’t have to intentionally cut ties with someone. Instead, you can lose touch, or maybe your destinies have different paths planned for you.
Either way, the bottom line is that you can lose everyone, as painful as this sounds. Everyone can leave you but yourself.
You’re the only one who will stick with yourself. After all, you have no other choice – there is no option in which you can run from yourself when you feel like it.
So, do you understand why the relationship between you and you is the most important one? Why do you need to constantly work on it? Why do you need to cherish it for the rest of your life?
You deserve the kind of love you would give to someone else.
For as long as you can remember, you have always been the one who loves more. It has been like that in all of your relationships: you’ve been the one carrying most of the weight.
It’s not that you begged for someone’s attention and affection. But, the bitter truth is that most of your relationships wouldn’t have gotten so far without you pushing them that hard.
So, it’s perfectly natural that you end up feeling used and taken advantage of. Not only that: you’re also drained and exhausted from all of that work.
You feel like there is no more energy left in you. You’ve been putting too much effort into relationships that were doomed to fail.
But, the worst part is that you rarely got anything back. You feel like everything was in vain, and you don’t plan on repeating the same mistakes again.
The last thing you want is another relationship in which you’re the one who gives more – a relationship in which you’re the one who keeps on pushing things forward without the other person moving an inch.
You can’t help but feel like you were alone in most of your relationships. Instead of fighting side by side with your partner, most of the time, you had to fight against them.
Well, I promise you that this will change. You’ll never be in a similar situation again.
And, you know why? Because the Universe saw it all. It saw your tears and your efforts.
The Universe saw how capable you are of loving. And, you’ll never meet anyone who doesn’t have the same abilities as you.
Instead, the next time you meet someone special, they will give you back the love they’ll receive from you because you deserve all the love you keep giving to everyone else.
Once you understand that, you’ll never settle for anything less. You’ll never settle for someone who doesn’t have the capacity to do good.
You will meet your soulmate: someone who will love you deeply and who will never hold any part of themself back. You will cross paths with a person who will make all of your dreams come true.
You will meet someone who won’t make you feel emotionally neglected and unloved. Trust me: all the positive energy and love you’ve given to the world will find their way back to you.
Becoming heartless is not the way to go
Don’t get disappointed in love just because you’re meeting people who don’t know how to reciprocate your efforts. Don’t build walls just because you’ve run into someone who didn’t see the magnitude of your heart.
Instead, you keep on doing you. I promise you – karma will reward you for all of your hard work.
You’re never too old and it’s never too late.
Who told you that love has an age limit? Trust me: this is nothing but a myth that we’re about to bust.
I don’t know how and when this happened, but it seems that people give up on finding love after a certain amount of time.
It’s like romance is reserved for your twenties only. Once you hit your thirties, everyone acts like they’re trying to catch the last chance for love.
It’s like you’ll cease to exist after a certain age. Like your ability to feel will suddenly disappear as you walk into the fourth or fifth decade of your life.
Well, guess what: it won’t. In fact, there are countless examples of people who found the love of their life in retirement homes.
So, please, don’t let society limit you with this nonsense. There is absolutely no need for you to panic about not finding your forever person just because you’ve reached a certain age.
I don’t care how long you’ve waited to go back out there – you might just as well meet your Ms. or Mr. Right tomorrow.
There is no guarantee that relationships that start in your twenties or thirties will be more successful. Instead, it’s the other way around.
Relationships at a later age
Yes, I know it seems that finding someone when you’re a fifty-, sixty-, or seventy-year-old single man or woman looks like mission impossible. Most of the people your age are already taken.
And, those who are not? Well, all of them have some heavy weight on their shoulders. Everyone, including you, carries loads of emotional baggage.
But, let’s look at things from another perspective: at this point, you and your potential partners know exactly what you’re looking for. If not, at least, you know what you don’t want, and that’s much more than the knowledge you had back when you were younger, isn’t it?
So, all of this experience doesn’t make it harder to love and be loved. Instead, it makes your heart a lot more break-resistant.
Besides, who says that you can find someone your age? Nobody prevents you from dating people outside of your generation.
Just because you’re a little bit older than a typical bachelor doesn’t mean that you don’t have the right to look for love.
Forget about all that advice telling you to settle for anything. Forget about people telling you that you’re too picky and that you should take the first offer you have. In fact, according to them, you should be lucky if you find anyone your age.
Well, trust me when I tell you that this can’t be farther from the truth. Remember this: it’s never too late and you’re never too old.
Every time you’re rejected, you’re redirected to something better.
I’ll be honest with you here: nobody likes being rejected. It doesn’t have to necessarily mean that you loved the person who said “no” to your offer.
If your heart doesn’t get broken in this process – your ego certainly will. When something like this happens, you can’t help but wonder what’s wrong with you.
How come the person you liked couldn’t even give you a chance? Are you that unlovable?
Are there better options than you out there? Or, are you just so bad that they would rather be alone than spend any time with you?
Why couldn’t you be good enough for them? Does that mean that you won’t be good enough for anyone else in the future either?
These are all the questions running through your head while you’re trying to figure out the answer to the ultimate one: “Will I ever find love?”
I won’t lie to you: rejection is hard for everyone. It’s not pleasing even for those players that hit on dozens of girls in one night.
It makes you question your worth, your ability to attract the opposite s*
x, and your entire romantic future.
Well, let’s switch tables for a little bit. Instead of seeing rejection as a curse, try observing it as a blessing.
Yes, that’s right. You remember how everything happens for a reason. So, what if you got rejected for a reason?
What if this was the Universe’s life-changing way of redirecting you to something much better? What if you were destined for greater things?
Is it possible that you actually dodged a bullet when this person decided not to give you a chance? Was this God’s way of saving you from a lot of misery?
Maybe you would be unhappy next to this person. Or, maybe you would end up trapped in this relationship and you would miss a chance of meeting your real forever person.
Please, try thinking this way every time you get rejected. Yes, it will keep on happening, but you’ll stop seeing it as the end of the world.
Nothing is worse than a missed opportunity
You’ll always know you’ve tried. You’ll know that you gave your best and did everything in your power to make this person yours.
At least, you’ll have that realization. There won’t be all of the “what ifs” and “coulda, shoulda have beens” haunting you forever.
You saw an opportunity and you grabbed it. The truth is that it didn’t work out as you had planned, but that doesn’t mean that it didn’t work out for the best in the long run.
So, instead of letting this experience ruin your self-confidence, it should make you feel proud. You had enough courage to open your heart to someone, and them not seeing you as a great catch you are is their loss.
Rejection is not personal
Another thing you must keep in mind is that different people will reject you for different reasons. Whatever that is in question, the bottom line is that you can’t take it personally.
First and foremost, everyone has the right to choose who they’ll be with. The object of your affection is no different.
Them refusing to give you a chance doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t like you. Maybe they’re not ready for a relationship right now.
Maybe they enjoy their single life. Or, they have some unresolved issues with the past and are honest enough not to drag you into their mess.
Or, they’re just not that into you. That doesn’t make you any less worthy. Just because one person doesn’t like you or doesn’t find you attractive doesn’t mean that you’re not likable or hot.
Don’t forget that we all have our tastes and preferences, and if someone doesn’t see you as their suitable match – whatever the reason is – don’t take that as an insult.
Instead, respect their decisions and move on.
What is meant to be will always find a way.
The bottom line is that you can’t force anyone to be with you, let alone to care for you. If you still haven’t found the love you’re looking for, one thing is for sure: love still hasn’t been meant to find you.
There is no point in forcing anything. You can’t lose what’s not truly yours nor can you get what’s not destined to be yours.
You might find love tomorrow or it might happen in a decade. Either way, it will knock on your door when the timing is right.
You can’t catch it and you certainly can’t run away from it. Whoever is meant to be yours will always find a way.
You will cross paths with your soulmate and there isn’t anyone or anything that can prevent that from happening.
Even when it seems impossible and even when everything seems lost – what is meant to be yours will end up in your hands.
There is no point in overthinking
Don’t get me wrong: I’m not saying that you should sit on your couch, expecting the love of your life to actually knock on your door.
Well, technically, this way, you might realize that your food delivery boy is actually your match made in heaven, which would also be fate.
That’s as if you keep asking God or the Universe to help you win the lottery without you ever actually filling out a ticket.
After all, that’s what makes us human (among other things): our judgment and decision-making skills. Therefore, I’m not advising you to put your entire life in the hands of destiny.
You can’t be a passive bystander, but there is no point in being a relationship overthinker either.
You can worry about your love life as much as you want, but things will fall into their places in a predestined moment.
I know that this probably sounds scary, but the bottom line is that some things are out of your reach, and you’ll just have to deal with it.
God has a plan for you.
I can promise you one thing: God has perfect timing. Please, keep in mind that patience is the key to success, and don’t rush anything. He knows a lot more than you and He will give you what’s right for you to have.
He has a plan for each one of us. It’s just that sometimes, we fail to understand His intentions.
We’ve all been there: in a situation where we think we’ve reached our breaking point. There you are: at rock bottom.
You don’t see a way out. You think of a million solutions, but not one gives you hope that there is a better tomorrow.
So, you’re on the verge of a breakdown. You are about to give up on everything and embrace spending the rest of your life in misery.
Well, that is when God will save you. He has given you exactly how much you can take.
He has been testing you and putting you in front of many walls. He has taken a lot from you – but that’s because He has had much better things and people in store all along.
God won’t give you what you want – He will give you what you need
Most importantly: God will never give you what you want. Naturally, you think that this is the worst thing that could ever happen.
But, trust me: it’s actually the best. And, you know why? Because He’ll always give you exactly what you need without you even being aware of it.
You’re just a human being. That means that there are some things beyond your comprehension and you’ll just have to deal with them.
Sometimes, you wish for things and people that are actually no good for you – you just don’t see it. Well, the good news is that He always does.
At the end of the day, your job is only to never lose faith, even when you’re at your worst. Trust me: God loves you, even when you don’t love yourself.
He will never betray you and He will never give up on you. As long as you believe in His judgments, you’ll never have to walk alone in this world.
Nothing ever goes away until it teaches you a lesson.
After all those failures and wrong choices, you not only wonder: “Will I ever find love?”, but you also ask yourself: “When will my bad luck go away?”
What else should happen for you to get your portion of happiness? When will this cycle of sadness and heartbreak finally stop?
When will you stop running into people who are obviously wrong for you?
Or, maybe this is all just about one person who clearly doesn’t care for you enough. When will you get the strength to finally cut ties with this man or woman who doesn’t deserve you?
When will you move on with your life, and when will your crushed heart heal? When will you understand that this is not the right choice for you? When will you save yourself and get over this toxic person?
Well, the answer is: all of this pain will go away once you learn something from it. You see, nothing ever goes away until it teaches you a lesson.
Once again, we go back to the notion that everything happens for a reason. Well, all of these bad people simply had to march through your life to teach you some things.
First of all, you have to learn that you don’t depend on anyone. Yes, contrary to your expectations, I guess you survived without that boy or girl you were so obsessed about a year ago. So, why do you think that this time will be different?
Also, you have to learn to appreciate yourself. Nothing good ever came out of you begging for someone’s love, did it?
Every toxic person in your life served a purpose. So, don’t look at them as your own personal misery – look at them as your path to happiness.
The toughest lessons are the most valuable ones
So, why did I have to learn all of this the hard way? Why couldn’t it have been a little simpler?
Well, that’s the whole point: the toughest lessons are the most valuable ones. They’re the only ones you’ll never forget.
I’m talking about the experiences that cost you a lot… about the ones you had to waste a lot of sweat and tears over before you finally understood the core.
I’m talking about the lessons that left unerasable scars on your heart and soul… about the ones that changed you forever. These are the only lessons you’ll remember for as long as you breathe.
It just feels like everyone is in a relationship right now.
When you look around, it seems that you’re the only single person you know. It’s like everyone has found their special someone. Everyone besides you.
And, I’m not talking about casual hook-ups here only. It seems that all of your friends, coworkers, and acquaintances are in serious, long-term relationships.
Most of them are married, and the ones who are not are certainly planning to tie the knot any time soon.
Whenever you check your social media feeds, all you can see are couples happily in love. You see people living the life you can only dream about.
So, it’s natural that you feel like an outcast. You can’t help but wonder what your fatal flaw is. How is it possible that you’re the only one who can’t find your perfect match?
Well, let me tell you something: it only looks like everyone is in a relationship right now. This is how the human mind works.
You can’t help but focus on the things you crave. You’re so obsessed with having a loving relationship right now that it has become the only thing on your mind.
You meet people with one goal only: to find a lover. You spend all of your free time on online dating sites and dating apps, such as Tinder, or going from one blind date to another. You’re obviously forcing something to fit in.
You don’t notice all the breakups and divorces around you. You don’t notice a bunch of forever alone girls and guys surrounding you.
Instead, you only see what you can’t have.
Besides, don’t believe everything you see on social media. Most of the time, things are nowhere near the way they look.
People don’t like sharing their misery with the rest of the world. Instead, they want their followers to think that they have the most perfect life ever.
That’s why you keep getting the impression that everyone is happy but you.
Don’t be bothered with society’s standards
I just want you to know one thing: you should never let society dictate your life. They’re not paying your bills and they’re not there to give you a hug when you’re crying yourself to sleep.
So, who are they to tell you that you’re less valuable just because you don’t have a partner? Therefore, if the only reason why you’re so desperate to find your match is to fit in – you’re not actually looking for love.
You’re looking for someone to accompany you on double dates with your BFF. You’re looking for someone to be your plus one at weddings and important events.
You’re looking for someone to post happy selfies on your social media profiles. You’re looking for someone to take you out on Valentine’s day, so you don’t have to spend it alone at home as you did last year.
Don’t get me wrong: these are all parts of a relationship. These are the little things that make every girl and guy happy.
But, this shouldn’t be your primary reason for your question of, “Will I ever find love?” It’s one thing if you really miss having a life partner, but it’s completely different if you want one just to avoid people asking you about your love life and feeling sorry for you when you tell them that you’re still single.
Remember: this is your life and you shouldn’t live it by anyone’s expectations. Don’t give a damn about what others think!
Maybe you’re looking for the wrong type of love.
Before you get the answer to the question: “Will I ever find love”, firstly, you have to know what kind of love you’re looking for. Could it be that you idealize the concept of love and soulmates?
Don’t get me wrong: I’m not saying that the perfect person for you doesn’t exist out there. I assure you that your other half awaits you.
I’m not advising you to settle for anything less than this. I’m not telling you to lower your standards just to avoid ending up alone.
I’m just asking you to differentiate between real life and fairytales. Your love story doesn’t have to be like it is in the movies or in old novels.
You don’t have to necessarily bump into your forever person like you’ve seen it in romantic high-school comedies. It doesn’t have to mean that the Earth will stop spinning the moment you meet them.
Passion vs. true love
You see, a deep soul love is usually not a roller coaster of emotions – love is calm. No, this doesn’t mean that it will make you feel indifferent.
But, please don’t mistake your forever person with that guy or girl you keep on breaking up and getting back together with for years. It’s not that person you can’t seem to get along with nor the one you enjoy fighting with.
Most importantly: don’t mistake true love for butterflies because in most cases, the two don’t have anything in common. In fact, those butterflies and fireworks are usually just passion.
Often, it’s what you feel in a toxic relationship. It’s not love: it’s the feeling of never knowing where you stand… it’s the anticipation of what’ll happen next, and it’s the constant chase.
Well, real love will never make you feel like this. Instead, it will feel like home.
When you love someone, it brings you this incredible tranquility you have never experienced before.
Real love is not perfect
This doesn’t mean that you should expect it to be perfect. The truth is that you’ll have your own share of turmoil in every relationship.
There will be disagreements and big fights. Your partner will annoy you from time to time, and some of their habits will get on your nerves.
Nevertheless, that’s how things should be. After all, you’re not perfect and neither are they. So, how can you expect your relationship to be flawless?
Your happiness starts with you.
The trick about people who are desperate to find love is that, in most cases, they expect it to change… to turn their world upside down in a blink of an eye. I’m sure you know exactly what I’m talking about.
If nothing else – you’ve seen it in the movies. Or, maybe you’re a hopeless romantic yourself who has the same perceptions.
You think that every single problem you have will disappear the moment you meet your companion. It doesn’t matter if you’re struggling with mental health, finances, or any other issue – this person will be your savior and will put an end to all of your sufferings.
Look, love is very powerful, but let’s be real for a second: it’s not the be-all and end-all. This person doesn’t go around carrying a magic stick made just for you.
They will make all of your troubles look a lot more bearable, but they won’t chase them away just like that. They will make the sleepless nights a lot less lonely, but they won’t bring the sunshine out of nowhere.
I hate to break it to you, but that, my dear, is your and your job only. You see, your happiness starts with you.
The bottom line is this: if you’re not happy being single, tough luck, but you won’t be happy in a relationship either. The steering wheel is in your hands only. You’re taking responsibility whether you like it or not.
The point is that you have to sort things out in your life instead of expecting someone else to do it for you. Otherwise, you’ll always be disappointed.
Will I ever find love again?
The time that you have to especially remember this is when your romantic relationships end. The truth is that you make the biggest mistake ever when you connect your happiness to your love life only.
When this happens, you don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel after each break-up. It crushes you because you not only lose someone you love – you lose your entire joy, which would be devastating for everyone.
Well, I can’t emphasize this enough, but the end of your relationship is not and should not be the end of your world. Instead, it is actually a chance for a new, fresh beginning… a chance to take your life into your own hands, and that’s the chance you have to take before you start another quest for love.
Being single is a chance to live your life on your own terms.
I know that you’re here to get the answer to the question: “Will I ever find love?” And, you expect me to tell you when it will happen and probably even how to speed up the process.
Yes, you’ll most likely end up with your happily ever after. You’ll find your perfect match who will make your life even better.
But, what if that doesn’t happen? Don’t get me wrong: I’m not claiming that you’ll die alone.
Nevertheless, the fact is that no relationship expert can tell you what waits for you. Your destiny is written in the stars, and I can’t possibly predict what will happen next.
So, without the intention of breaking your bubble, let’s just stop for a moment and take another option into consideration.
Let’s think about the chance that you remain single. I’m not talking about being single forever here – I’m talking about being single for some time.
Is that the worst thing that could happen to you? I know that your answer will be positive; otherwise, you wouldn’t be here.
But, hey, trust me: you can’t be more wrong. There is absolutely nothing miserable about being single.
It doesn’t mean that you have to be lonely and desperate. It doesn’t mean that your life will lose its meaning.
Yes, finding the right guy or girl can make you happier. Nevertheless, haven’t we already established that you’re the one who holds the keys to your own happiness?
Look at things this way. Instead of lamenting over your bad luck, why don’t you start observing your single status as a chance to live your life on your own terms?
I’ll be dead honest here. No matter how compatible you are with your significant other, you’ll always have to make some sacrifices for the sake of your relationship.
When you are taken, you’re a part of a team. Of course, you don’t lose your individuality in a healthy relationship, but since you’re no longer an item but a part of a couple, then you’ll have to find balance in your relationship.
From that moment on, you can’t make any crucial decisions by yourself. It’s not like you can wake up one morning and decide to move to another city, or quit your job and start over.
You can’t even change apartments or pick your next vacation spot if the other person doesn’t agree. The truth is that you’ll have to meet halfway regarding mostly everything.
What I’m trying to tell you is that your single life is the last chance you have to make your own choices without having to think about how they’ll influence someone else. Appreciate that before you start to miss it.
Single life beats a wrong relationship
There is an even more important thing I want you to remember forever: being single beats being in a toxic relationship any time.
Why am I telling you this? Because many men and women get involved in new relationships for all the wrong reasons.
Sometimes, you’re just sick and tired of being the only one without a partner, so you jump on the first person that comes along.
You don’t think things through, you don’t analyze whether you two are a good match, and you don’t grow any feelings for them in particular. Instead, you think that this is your last chance for happiness, and you hold on to them.
Basically, you turn into a drowning person who will clutch at a straw.
At the end of the day, you don’t get your happiness. Instead, you make the situation much worse.
You get stuck in a relationship you actually never wanted, with someone you never really loved. You either hurt this person next to you or you yourself end up heartbroken.
When this happens, you have two options. You can either remain right where you are, allowing your life to pass you by or you can end things on time.
If you choose the first one, be aware that you’ll spend every day of your life feeling like you’re suffocating.
On the other hand, if you do break things off, which is a better choice, you’ll have to do a lot of healing and damage repair.
So, do you still think that being single and enjoying it is worse than these scenarios?
It’s one thing if the question, “Will I ever find love”, crosses your mind every now and then. This is something that everyone thinks about from time to time.
But, please, whatever happens, don’t let this become your only obsession. Remember: whatever you chase runs away from you.
So, instead of racking your brains, do your best to relax and enjoy every precious moment you get. In the meantime, be patient and wait for love.