If you’ve ever met some of the most stubborn zodiac signs — and how can you not — then you know that once they set their minds to something, it’s almost impossible for them to change it again.
You certainly aren’t going to stop being stubborn just because someone tells you not to. I don’t know if I would consider myself to be one of the more stubborn signs, but I definitely don’t share my feelings with just anyone.
Of course, in the right situation I will, like if I’m venting to my best and most trusted friend, but beyond that, I’m not going to open up to others.
Plus, it makes me feel really awkward and uncomfortable when people — especially strangers — open up to me about their feelings.
You know how, when you ask someone how their day is going, you almost automatically prepare for an “I’m good” response?
Well, I used to work in retail, so I would constantly repeat, “How are you today?” whenever I was helping customers, but I felt more like a zombie saying it because no one EVER says something other than “I’m good.”
Except one day, I said my usual greeting and a customer then proceeded to tell me everything that was going wrong with her day, as well as her current medical issues
Needless to say, I was NOT prepared for that and since the exchange of feelings makes me break out in hives, I was totally uncomfortable.
I admire that she was so at ease with talking about her feelings and that she clearly didn’t care who she was talking to, but it was definitely an experience I never forgot.
And, of course, her zodiac sign is probably wayyyy down towards the bottom of this list, thanks to her fantastic ability to open up to others, especially strangers.
That said, not all of us are so lucky to be so in touch with our emotions.
And even if we are, every astrological sign needs something specific to help us open up about our feelings.
For this customer, all she needed was for someone to take an interest in her
For others, you need a few sticks of dynamite, a crowbar, and some really good lock picking skills to pry open that vault where they keep their emotions (ahem, Capricorn).
Keep reading for the zodiac signs that stuff their feelings down deep — and how to get them to open up, based on astrology.
CAPRICORN (December 22 – January 19)
Capricorn is not known for being one who is in touch with her feelings. In fact, if science were much more advanced, she would probably have herself turned into a robot with no feelings whatsoever.
For her, stuffing her feelings and emotions way down where no one knows they exist not only makes her a stronger person, but it also helps her protect her heart.
Of course, Capricorn is still human (much to her disappointment), which means that she can’t always hide every feeling she has.
And there are rare times when you can tell that she really does need to talk about what’s going on, even if she doesn’t want to.
Getting Capricorn to open up is hard, but if you try to talk about her emotions in a logical way, not with feelings involved, she’s more apt to try to open up.
SCORPIO (October 23 – November 21)
Scorpio hides her true emotions because she knows that not everyone is trustworthy. And the last thing she needs is to open up to someone thinking they can keep a secret and then hear from someone else that they know what she’s going through.
To her, this is one of the biggest betrayals someone can do to her. And if you’re the one spilling her secrets, she’ll never trust you again.
But just because Scorpio puts her heart and her feelings in a steel safe with tons of locks guarded by scary dogs and barbed wire doesn’t mean she doesn’t have feelings.
She’s a very passionate person who loves to express herself; she just wants to express herself in a safe environment.
Getting her to open up to you is as simple as proving that you’re a trustworthy person – for example, sharing your own feelings honestly.
ARIES (March 21 – April 19)
Aries has no problem telling people that she’s happy or excited, simply because these are positive emotions that everyone would want to share.
Her problem lies in more vulnerable emotions; she doesn’t want to be the girl who always talks about what she’s feeling, even though it’s eating her up inside to ignore it.
So, being herself, Aries keeps her schedule packed so that she never has to slow down and think about her feelings.
If you want to get Aries to open up – because, let’s face it, she sucks at pretending everything is fine when it’s not – you need to work with her, not against her. This means fitting yourself into her schedule.
Telling her you want to chat when she has meetings and appointments all day is never going to work, but being one of those appointments will.
She already has time carved out for you, she might as well vent.
GEMINI (May 21 – June 20)
Gemini knows she can be a whirlwind of emotions a lot of the time, so she tries to keep her feelings hidden so that she doesn’t end up annoying everyone around her.
Of course, she can’t help being an indecisive person, that’s just who she is, so mood swings and jumping from one emotion to another is just part of her DNA.
She tries to handle it on her own, but that isn’t always that easy.
Validating Gemini’s emotions and mood swings is the perfect way to get her to open up and calm down. When she knows she has your ear, it helps her work out her emotions in a safe space where she can puzzle through them out loud.
When she gets too caught up in her head, she has all of her emotions swimming around, confusing her even more. Just knowing you can relate and you’re always there to listen makes her feel better.
LEO (July 23 – August 22)
Leo is a master at a lot of things, but expressing her feelings in a healthy way is not always one of them. Sure, she has no problem telling you what’s up, but it’s usually somewhere in the middle of her taking these feelings out on you in a rageful way.
She knows this is wrong, obviously, so she ends up clamming up when it’s something really important, simply because she’s worried she won’t be able to handle it well.
The best way to get Leo to open up about her emotions and not feel guilty about it is to mirror her attitude. If it seems like she’s mad, ask her what’s going on and let her vent. If you come back with, “Damn, that DOES suck!”
She’ll open up more and talk about her feelings. It’s only when she feels like she’s handling her emotions wrong that she stuffs them down and tries to ignore them.
VIRGO (August 23 – September 22)
Virgo is so hell-bent on everything being perfect in her life that she sometimes feels like feelings cloud her judgment and make her crazy.
Even if she’s expressing the average amount of feelings everyone else does, she still feels like it’s too chaotic for her perfectly put-together life.
She would rather lock her emotions away and hope she doesn’t have to deal with them later on.
Since Virgo doesn’t know how to make a mess without immediately picking up the pieces, it’s important to get her to relax and shake off the messy bits in life.
Getting her to open up will only work if she has permission to let in a little chaos.
Telling her the world isn’t going to end if she cries or blows off work for the day because she needs some me time is like allowing her to be the person she wants to be without guilt.
PISCES (February 19 – March 20)
Pisces usually has no problems expressing her emotions, but only if there’s someone around that she trusts. She isn’t someone to cry or get angry in front of just anyone, despite what people think of her sign.
Instead, she’s the type of person to keep her chin up and handle whatever is bothering her like a pro, at least until she can get to a place where she can be alone.
If she has to handle her feelings alone too many times in a row, then she’ll convince herself that no one else actually wants to help her cope with her emotions and she’ll stuff them down deep.
If you want to get Pisces to open up, all you have to do is listen to her vent. Let her know you aren’t going to judge her or try to tell her to change her attitude; you’re just here to listen and be present.
CANCER (June 21 – July 22)
Cancer is another one of those signs who isn’t usually afraid to share her emotions with other people, unless those same people give her a reason not to be honest with herself.
For Cancer, she already knows how people receive her when she’s being a little all over the place with her feelings.
She often tries harder than everyone else to rein in her emotions, which isn’t the adult thing to do – it’s sad that she can’t be herself.
When she automatically feels like she’s bothering you before she even opens her mouth, that’s when you know Cancer is trying to stuff her feelings down and ignore them.
Obviously this is unhealthy, but with Cancer, it’s like trying to get a shy puppy to warm up to you again.
Give her time to open up and she’ll learn to be herself and vent about her feelings in the healthier way. It takes time, but Cancer needs to know you care.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 – December 21)
Sagittarius is one of those people who wears her emotions right on her face. There isn’t really anything she hides from others, especially because she’s all about being honest with yourself and the people around you.
When Sagittarius wants to say something or express an emotion, she’s going to do it, whether you’re ready for it or not.
Getting Sagittarius to open up isn’t a hard one to figure out. All you really have to do is get her talking about whatever it is that’s got her emotions running high.
Show even the slightest bit of interest in what she has to say and she will tell you everything.
Of course, she’s definitely more apt to sharing with her friends than complete strangers, but even then, if she’s drunk, Sagittarius will share her feelings with ANYONE.
TAURUS (April 20 – May 20)
Taurus knows that there’s a big difference between sharing your feelings and oversharing your feelings. When you know how to share your feelings without going over the top with them, then just about anyone will listen to you.
She tries to rein in how much she tells people, but being Taurus, she still loves to talk about herself.
When you want Taurus to open up, she might resist at first. She doesn’t want to get into the dangerous territory of oversharing, but she also hates having things on her mind and not being able to talk about them.
To get her talking, all you need to do is ask about her personal life. She likes being able to relate things that are going on in her life to why she’s having certain feelings, so it gives her a valid excuse to talk about herself.
LIBRA (September 23 – October 22)
Libra has no problem with sharing her feelings, as long as there’s a reason for her to do so. She isn’t one to mope around until someone asks her what’s wrong, but if you’re the problem, you better believe she’s going to tell you just how upset you’re making her.
Libra hates confrontation, but she hates keeping her true self hidden even more. Getting Libra to open up is as easy as sharing your own feelings first.
Libra is all about give and take, tit for tat, and if she’s going to be honest with you, she wants you to return the favor.
Let her poke around in your personal life before she talks about her own and it’ll make for a much open conversation.
She believes that feelings are validated when you can share them with someone else, instead of just throwing them out there.
AQUARIUS (January 20 – February 18)
Aquarius never sweats sharing her feelings, but with one stipulation to the rule. You have to be someone very close to her, like a family member or a best friend, before she can unleash everything she’s feeling onto you.
And when Aquarius feels, she feels hard. Of course, she knows that sharing her feelings all the time just makes her look like she’s whining, so there are rare moments when she shuts up because she feels annoying.
Whether she’s in one of those moods or just being her normal self, Aquarius will open up to you if you let her control the conversation or the share session.
If she feels like things are getting way too deep too fast, she likes being in control so she can put on the brakes.
She will only share what she’s most comfortable sharing, even with her BFF, so if she’s in charge, she’s more likely to open up than if you’re in charge.