You’re a nurturer. A healer. A people pleaser. You like taking care of others. You care more about their happiness and well-being than your own. That’s why you constantly find yourself in the wrong relationship — and why you have so much trouble leaving. You don’t want to abandon someone when you feel like they need you. You don’t want to walk away from someone who could benefit from your tenderness, your generosity, your soft heart.
You get too worried about what they would do without you if you left, whether they would be okay without your help, so you don’t bother to ask yourself whether you’re okay. You stay for way too long because you feel like it’s the right thing to do. You feel like it’s your obligation to rescue them.
You’re stubborn. You don’t like to admit when you’re wrong. You hate the idea of giving up on people you’ve invested your energy into. You hate the possibility that you might’ve wasted this much time on the wrong person.
Of course, you don’t consider yourself a quitter. You consider yourself a fighter. That’s why you’ll do everything within your power to make the wrong relationship work. You’ll make sacrifices. You’ll put in the extra effort. You’ll do everything you can to salvage your relationship. But eventually, you’ll have to come to terms with the fact that there’s nothing you can do. True love is out of your control. You can’t force it. You can’t change reality.
You always see the best in people. You have a kind, soft, forgiving heart. You give out second chances because you honestly believe people can change, can better themselves, can learn from their mistakes.
Unfortunately, sometimes you’re too nice. Sometimes you give out too many chances. You allow people to walk over you because you feel like it’s all part of the process. You have faith that things will work out in the end, that they’ll see the error of their ways, that they’ll grow to treat you the way you deserve. But not everyone is as sweet-hearted as you. You have to realize some relationships are a lost cause, which is hard for you because you never want to give up hope. You never want to give up on love.
You get attached easily. Once someone makes a home in your heart, you never want to carve them out. You want them to stay forever. You don’t know the meaning of temporary, which is why all of your relationships turn so serious, even when you’re with the wrong partner.
You’re the type of person who is in love with the idea of love, so you want every relationship to work out. It kills you when you realize you need to break up again. That’s why you usually don’t break up. You keep the relationship going for much too long. You keep pretending it might work out in the end when, deep down, you know there’s not a chance.