SENSITIVE PEOPLE HAVE A HARD TIME IN LOVE

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Often misunderstood and perceived as overly sensitive does not make life easier for sensitive people. And above all not in love. They are much more concerned with everything and everyone, often roll around sleeplessly before important events and are very afraid of wrong decisions and their possible consequences. Dealing with them can be very difficult. The construction of an emotional protective wall is part of the standard repertoire, it should keep others away until they have proven to be trustworthy and protect the sensitive core from disappointments and serious setbacks …

Rational decisions

The feeling sets the tone for sensitive people. Most of them find it difficult to make rational decisions and when it comes to love, they are so afraid of disappointments that they simply give up and prefer to stay alone rather than jumping over their own shadows. Controlling your own emotions often seems simply impossible, so emotional outbursts are not uncommon. They can then be perceived as moody and unpredictable, because many people simply don’t know how to deal with these fluctuations and how to classify them. There is simply a lack of understanding for so much sensitivity and emotionality.

Absolute security

Simply relying on your feelings and following your heart like other people do is simply out of the question for sensitive people. What is obvious to outsiders is often simply not recognizable to them, especially with the knowledge that they cannot explain their own behavior to others. Therefore, it is much more difficult for them to trust other people, to relax with them and to get involved with them. Before you give someone your heart, you have to be absolutely sure that they don’t want to hurt you and that they mean it with absolute honesty. This can take a while. And it is precisely this time that very few people take the time to interpret the suspicious, waiting, questioning behavior as a criticism of themselves. So they turn away and have no idea what deep wound they can leave with a sensitive person who only feels that their assumptions are confirmed once more. So it is incredibly difficult to take the first step. The fear of rejection is just too great and experience has shown that every effort in this direction has always been disappointed. They simply lack the courage to make big decisions that could improve life sustainably or that could just result in another emotional catastrophe. What is needed is a confident, patient person who has sufficient empathy and sensitivity, a reliable haven of peace to understand them and correctly interpret their behavior so that they can engage with them. Because nobody needs as much security and confirmation as sensitive people. It is difficult to understand how much you can rethink things over and over again and play through all variations in your head. And precisely because these people are so insecure, they will turn every word they hear, always put everything on the gold scales and would like to hear ten times a day that the feelings are still there for them and you do not intend to leave them . That sounds exhausting, and it is. Mutually. always put everything on the gold scales and would like to hear ten times a day that the feelings are still there for them and you do not intend to leave them. That sounds exhausting, and it is. Mutually. always put everything on the gold scales and would like to hear ten times a day that the feelings are still there for them and you do not intend to leave them. That sounds exhausting, and it is. Mutually.

Worth it

How stressful must it be to never let go and give up control? Don’t just let yourself go and trust yourself. If even the smallest things and jokingly meant comments are perceived in an exaggerated manner and can lead to an internal crisis. For a potential partner, this means, at least initially, enormous efforts and patience. But, and that’s the good news, it’s worth it. Because sensitive people are extremely loyal, honest and do not get involved with someone without thinking. They long for deep, intensive relationships and take a lot for the happiness of their partner, stay true to their side even in bad times and help and support them wherever they can. If a relationship breaks down, they remain deeply injured and recover only with difficulty and very slowly. The emotional chaos and the experience remain in the back of the head, are difficult to process and can never be completely forgotten. Every new relationship is checked for the possibility of repeating what has been experienced. It has to be learned again that the scenarios do not have to be repeated. Learned behavior patterns will break out again and again when the new partner repeats actions of a past one. Then fighting the fear of renewed disappointment becomes a major task for those affected. So there is a high probability that the partner will be pushed away because of this fear, without doing anything wrong and really understanding the reaction. The emotional chaos and the experience remain in the back of the head, are difficult to process and can never be completely forgotten. Every new relationship is checked for the possibility of repeating what has been experienced. It has to be learned again that the scenarios do not have to be repeated. Learned behavior patterns will break out again and again when the new partner repeats actions of a past one. Then fighting the fear of renewed disappointment becomes a major task for those affected. So there is a high probability that the partner will be pushed away because of this fear, without doing anything wrong and really understanding the reaction. The emotional chaos and the experience remain in the back of the head, are difficult to process and can never be completely forgotten. Every new relationship is checked for the possibility of repeating what has been experienced. It has to be learned again that the scenarios do not have to be repeated. Learned behavior patterns will break out again and again when the new partner repeats actions of a past one. Then fighting the fear of renewed disappointment becomes a major task for those affected. So there is a high probability that the partner will be pushed away because of this fear, without doing anything wrong and really understanding the reaction. Every new relationship is checked for the possibility of repeating what has been experienced. It has to be learned again that the scenarios do not have to be repeated. Learned behavior patterns will break out again and again when the new partner repeats actions of a past one. Then fighting the fear of renewed disappointment becomes a major task for those affected. So there is a high probability that the partner will be pushed away because of this fear, without doing anything wrong and really understanding the reaction. Every new relationship is checked for the possibility of repeating what has been experienced. It has to be learned again that the scenarios do not have to be repeated. Learned behavior patterns will break out again and again when the new partner repeats actions of a past one. Then fighting the fear of renewed disappointment becomes a major task for those affected. So there is a high probability that the partner will be pushed away because of this fear, without doing anything wrong and really understanding the reaction. Then fighting the fear of renewed disappointment becomes a major task for those affected. So there is a high probability that the partner will be pushed away because of this fear, without doing anything wrong and really understanding the reaction. Then fighting the fear of renewed disappointment becomes a major task for those affected. So there is a high probability that the partner will be pushed away because of this fear, without doing anything wrong and really understanding the reaction.

The nightmare par excellence

For these reasons, online dating is also a rather difficult matter for very sensitive people, if not by accident a sensitive partner sits on the other side. Disappointments and unfulfilled expectations are almost inevitable. Because it is not uncommon in online dating that you want to stretch out your feelers, test different options and meet several potential partners at the same time. However, this is a nightmare for a sensitive person because he does not like to share and always has serious intentions. Superficial skirmishes are just not his thing. Love is a serious issue and that’s why you treat it that way. It is in the nature of sensitive people to love their loved ones, that applies to partners and friends, deeply and honestly. So it’s hard to twist, when someone does not appreciate it or doubts their loyalty and sincerity. Because his love is anything but self-evident, it is well thought out and tested for permanence, but deep and absolutely honest.

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