The chemistry is real, the feelings are there, the conversation is on point, and the lust is unstoppable. It seems you have it all… all but him.
He says he’s not ready for a relationship. He’s giving you crumbs and he’s always keeping you at arm’s length.
He hasn’t let you all in and is keeping his options open.
On the other hand, he can’t stand the thought of you with somebody else.
He wants commitment from you, but he can’t offer the same in return. And it’s time you put a stop to it.
Cut off boyfriend benefits if he’s not your boyfriend.
Yes, I mean s*x primarily. You don’t sleep with your friends, now do you?
If you have greater feelings for him than he has for you, you don’t want him to consider you as something casual.
Think about it. Why would he be interested in a relationship when he’s getting everything for free?
The emotional bond you have with him may be the death of you.
Maybe not actual death, but emotional slaughter is guaranteed.
Your heart breaks just as easily when there are labels as when there are none.
You spend time with somebody, emotions evolve, you get attached beyond your wildest dreams.
You text regularly, you hang out often, you have your inside jokes, you know each other’s thoughts and the way you smell in the morning.
It’s not just about s*x; it’s so much more. That’s why the situation you find yourself in hurts just as breaking up would.
You find yourself wanting more and reality slap is that he might not have more to give.
So, be the one who calls the shots.
Tear him down from that pedestal you placed him on if he isn’t ready to treat you like a queen.
He is your priority, your number one, the center of your universe, your king, but if he can’t treat you the same, then he’s not worthy of you.
If he’s not ready to step up and make you completely his, he’s not worthy of your time.
Don’t allow more months or years to pass without being truly happy.
Happiness comes and goes from your life, but it never stays long.
You feel like he has power over it and all he’s giving you are mere moments of unbelievable joy, only to spoil them with much larger periods of uncertainty.
There are days where there’s nothing he wouldn’t do for you, and then there are others where a text back, a simple “How are you?” and making plans to see you are too much effort.
His mind and his heart are inconsistent, and they’re making a mess out of your life.
He gives you hints that things might change. He talks about his feelings for you. He talks about the future and you make plans together.
Then, out of the blue, he’s nowhere to be found. He’s “too busy,” he’s with his friends night after night, he has no time for you until it’s convenient for him.
It’s disrespectful, to say the least, and it has to stop.
What you need to remind yourself of is that you deserve better from him, from life, from yourself.
From yourself primarily because it’s all in your hands. You have to have standards.
You can’t put up with someone’s crappy behavior and low investments.
Love yourself as much as you would want somebody else to love you and everything will fall into place.
You deserve things from him if he’s expecting relationship benefits. You deserve to be labeled as his girlfriend.
You deserve respect, loyalty, and effort. You deserve more than half of his heart.
Life owes you a thing or two as well. It owes you peace in your heart and love in your life. You just need to reach for them.
You deserve a committed relationship where all your efforts are reciprocated and you aren’t the only one making them.
You deserve to be loved back and not be the one who loves for two.
So, if he isn’t ready to be in a relationship, cut off all the benefits and inform him you’re not ready for a non-relationship either.