For as long as you can remember, your primary focus in life has been finding a suitable romantic partner. However, the truth is that you haven’t had much luck when it comes to relationships.
Well, instead of advising you on how to meet the right guy, I’m here to ask you to stop actively searching for love for a while.
In fact, I promise you that this will be the decision of your life because you can expect these 5 incredible changes.
1. You learn that being alone makes you fabulous
In general, people are afraid to be alone. They’re scared of being left with their thoughts and of facing their true nature.
So, most people will do everything they can to avoid it. A lot of women are ready to settle for less than they deserve because they think it’s better than being single.
They accept relationships that don’t make them happy just so they have someone to share their life with and someone to make them feel less lonely.
So, when you stop chasing love, the first thing you’ll probably be scared of is exactly this: having to be alone.
Well, let me tell you that this is actually a great thing because we should all learn how to live with ourselves, before learning how to live with others.
This is the first significant lesson this kind of lifestyle will teach you: that you don’t need another human being, let alone a romantic partner to survive.
You can make it on your own and you don’t need anyone to complete you.
2. The lead role goes to you
When you’re constantly chasing a relationship, you dedicate most of your energy to finding the right guy.
You go out on dates, you visit different online dating sites, and you’re always on the hunt for a potential boyfriend.
However, your job is far from done once you find someone who appears to be a good match for you.
In fact, this is where you have to analyze the guy, dissect his moves, try to figure out his signals, and do your best to get to the bottom of his personality.
Simultaneously, you’re making sure you’re girlfriend material. Whether you like to admit it or not, the fact is that you put a lot of effort into being as attractive as possible to the opposite s*x.
It sounds like a hard job, doesn’t it?
Well, when you stop looking for love, you have the chance to redirect all of this energy toward yourself. Now you can focus entirely on your own self-improvement without obsessing over men.
3. Your other relationships become stronger
Another beneficial consequence of leaving love behind for a while are the other relationships in your life, which will flourish.
Now that you’re not so concerned with romance, you’ll have all the time in the world to focus on the other people who matter in your life.
This is the opportunity for you to revive your friendships and family relationships. For you to understand who deserves a place in your life and who should be cut out of it.
Most importantly: now you’ll be able to focus on the most significant relationship – the one you have with yourself.
4. You discover a lot about romance
When you’re constantly chasing romance, you forget what you really want and need.
Your only objective becomes having a boyfriend and under these circumstances, it’s easy to lose track and lower your standards.
Well, this period is a perfect chance to change that. A chance to learn a lot about yourself and to finally figure out what your deal breakers are.
You’re not as invested in the possibility of finding a perfect match so you have the opportunity to observe the dating world as an objective bystander.
You have the opportunity to set relationship goals and to realize what kind of man you really want next to you.
5. Love finds you
I know you think that is far from the truth, but trust me: once you stop chasing love, it comes to you. Once you stop obsessing over finding your Mr. Perfect, he comes knocking on your door.
You see, when you become more relaxed about your dating life, you attract more high-value guys.
Men stop smelling desperation on you, instead, they see freedom and independence, which are always appealing qualities.